Let me ask you a question: if you saw someone being beaten up by a thug, what would you do? Would you call the cops or would you do the more expedient thing and inject yourself into the situation and stop it by whatever means possible?
Would you change your mind if you were armed?
This hypothetical, but plausible scenario now takes a different tone.
What would you do to help save someone else’s marriage? Would you change your answer if you were armed? …follow me on this.
First question first: What would you do to help save someone else’s marriage? Do you even have the ability to do this? How do you know when someone else’s marriage is in jeopardy of divorce?
This is obviously much more difficult to answer than the question about the thug beating someone up, because you can see it happening in front of your very eyes. But how often do we see couples struggling, on the verge of divorce, and we sit back and do nothing? We don’t even call someone else for help!
“But that’s none of my business,” you say. “I don’t know them.” Or, you might respond: “I don’t know what to do.”
I firmly believe that those are lies straight from the pit of Hell. Satan fools us into thinking that we’re ill-equipped or that it’s simply none of our business if Joe and Sally are on the verge of divorce, after all, I’ve got my own problems to deal with.
Yes sir, you’re right; you have your own problems to deal with. But what if you didn’t? What if someone else was handling your problems? Would it make any difference then? What if I told you that you could unload all of your problems and free yourself up to help Joe and Sally? Just to add to the story, Joe and Sally have three children, ages 7, 9 and 15. NOW does that change your response?
You see we already have the ability to unload all of our problems. Jesus Christ promises to carry our load if we’ll just give it to him (Matt. 11:28-30). Now, without those burdens we’re freed up to help our friends, who so desperately need someone to come along side them and help them with their load.
Now what about that question about being armed? Well, take a look at Ephesians 6:10-18 and see how God can outfit you for the kind of combat that’s sure to come when you do step in to help Joe and Sally. God never said our life was going to be easy, or that we’d always have smooth sailing, but He does promise never to leave us or forsake us (Deut. 31:6).
I’ll bet right now that you know someone who’s struggling in his or her marriage. If you don’t, you’re probably not paying attention. I challenge you to open your eyes and ears and let God lead you into a situation that He wants to repair, but for His reasons, He wants to do it through you.
And just think about this: what if, through your efforts and by the grace and strength of God, Joe and Sally do realize that their marriage is a sacred bond that God created and that they do learn to love each other again? You’ve not only saved a marriage, but you’ve helped preserve a family, and you’ll likely never know how much pain you prevented five people from having to endure.