A friend of mine recently wrote in some online, social networking chatter something you don’t see or hear very often. He simply posted a note celebrating more than a quarter-century of marriage “to the most hot, godly woman in the world.” He finished the post by writing “I’m blessed.”
You don’t see or hear this very often. Instead, it’s more common to overhear negative, backbiting comments about one’s spouse, or boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s usually language overheard at work or in the store about “the old lady” or “that bum,” (oftentimes it’s language peppered with coarse adjectives) but rarely language commensurate with Paul’s exhortation in Ephesians 4:29. I like the way it reads in The Message version: “Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.”
So to hear and read stuff like this is refreshing.
In one instance a woman I know from church made a cute comment about her husband’s impending arrival home after a business trip. In another, a friend’s Web site included a cute comment about the husband by the wife. In both cases I took the opportunity to single out the praising party and let them know that I found their comments refreshing and worthy of praise.
Why is it so easy to backbite, gossip and say negative things to and about another person? Particularly, why do we do this to the people we’re supposed to love the most?
I firmly believe if we practiced this that divorce would not be so rampant in this country. Moreover, marital infidelity would likely be as rare as people would not be seeking the personal validation they do through illicit affairs, and families would be blessed because both parents would openly exclaim their love for each other, and in turn teach their children how God would have them respond to others, whether that be on the playground, or later in their own dating and possible marital relationships.