God made men to be courageous

Several weeks ago I had the opportunity to see the movie Courageous through a small, private showing. Let me just say that this movie is an excellent catalyst for men’s ministries all over, and particularly for churches struggling to get a men’s ministry started.

Talking with a couple guys after church this morning about the movie and about starting up a men’s ministry at my church one of the guys mentioned that one of the biggest struggles local pastors have is getting men to step up to the plate and be the husbands, fathers and leaders the family and the local church need.

Courageous the movie opens on September 30th. I challenge men all over to go see this movie, whether you’re 19 or 91, and respond accordingly. I believe God will honor us for our obedience and our courage.


6 thoughts on “God made men to be courageous

  1. Awesome!! Thank you for the update on this movie!! Fireproof and facing Giants were also great, Godly movies! Can’t wait to see Courageous!! God Bless

  2. I like the part in the Courageous preview where the dad says “I don’t just want to be a ‘good enough’ father.” I look forward to seeing this movie on September 30th.

    I read your related article post by Kerrie Sheaves, How Does Men’s Ministry Help Women, and I think the dangerous part of the article is the underlying assumption that if wives do X for their husband, husbands will do Y for their wives in return. Marriage is not a you-do-this-for-me-and-I-do-this-for-you kind of a covenant.

    God’s view of marriage is based on unconditional love as described in Ephesians 5. Marriage has the husband giving up his desires sacrificially to protect and further the best interests of his wife and family. Only a very small percentage of the population is willing to sacrifice themselves like this. Why?

    The problem with HUMANITY (not men or women specifically) is plain old SELF-CENTEREDNESS.

    I also don’t agree with Kerrie Sheaves that men who hang out with other men come home more willing to spend quality time with their family. That alleged cause-and-effect relationship sounds like a slick way for husbands to convince their wives that their playtime has benefits for her. There is nothing wrong with playtime (everyone needs it), but I don’t like the deceptive way a man’s playtime is sold to women. My dad played golf every Saturday when I was a kid and when he came home and turned on the tv when he was done. He did not magically want to spend time with us kids simply because he had already had his guy time.

    Kerrie Sheaves comment that “…she has seen women in churches shut men’s ministry down, making it impossible for their husbands and other men in the church to participate in men’s activities and programs…” seems improbable. Short of holding a gun to a man’s head (which should rightly land a woman in jail), how could a woman prevent a man from doing anything?

    Women like Ms. Sheaves seem to think that a man needs a woman’s PERMISSION to be a leader when in fact if a man has to get a woman’s permission to lead his family then SHE is the leader, not him.

    I think that women (and children) are LONGING for leadership, protection, and encouragement but not from a man whose wife has to hold his hand and say “Okay, honey, you go ahead and lead us somewhere.” Women want to follow confident yet courteous, masculine men who know where they are going.

    • That was one of the scenes in the movie that I liked. I’ve seen the entire movie already and can highly recommend it.
      Being “good enough” for me right now is not even possible because of divorce and the geographic distance between me and my young daughter, so this movie strikes a painful chord with me.
      You ask how a woman can prevent a man from doing anything? I’ve seen it and experienced it myself. Some women have a unique way of shutting men down emotionally and spiritually. Believe me… it happens!
      I agree that if couples would live as taught in Ephesians 5 and elsewhere, things would be a whole bunch better, but sin is rampant and is unfortunately not without its consequences.
      As for the notion of “permission,” I agree with you. Still, there are women out there who refuse to cede power in the relationship for a whole host of reasons, and in the process of just trying to get along (after all, that’s what society has conditioned men to do with their wives), he’ll go along to get along, all the while suffering inside until something explodes or gives.

  3. As I process the idea of “Men’s Ministry” further, I wonder, why does their need to be a ministry exclusive to men? To women?

    The idea of spouses involved in separate ministries would seem to create difficulty and distance in a marriage, not promote unity-one-flesh-relationship between husband and wife that God desires.

    Can’t everyone who calls Jesus their Lord gather together and allow God to mold each of them into the Christ-follower God intends them to be?

    Why does their need to be a Christian group that caters exclusively to one gender?

    • Janelle: In short I like the idea of men’s-only and women-only ministries because of the differences between men and women and the issues they face. These are not intended to supplant Sunday school classes for couples, or other programs for a mixed audience.
      Speaking as a man, I know for a fact that in the men’s-only groups I’ve been involved with there are things the guys will talk about and sort through to the benefit of their marriage relationships, and relationships with others in general, that would not have otherwise been brought up in a co-ed class or discussion group.

  4. Hi Janelle, good to read your thoughts on the article, it’s always interesting to see how both men and women respond to such a topic.
    Working as a woman in Men’s Ministry gives me a perspective that’s perhaps different to your own.
    Regarding your comment: “Women like Ms. Sheaves seem to think” hmm not sure what type of women you “think” I am from this “dangerous” comment but what I can illuminate for you is that as a woman whose a wife & mother a sister & a daughter, I would love to live in a world where Ephesians 5 comes naturally to my father, my husband and my male friends. But the reality is far from that for most of us. I couldn’t tell from your response but perhaps you have an amazing man/men in your life whose really operating in that Ephesians 5 space, I hope that’s so for you.
    In our marriage it takes a lot of sacrifice and daily choices on both sides to achieve that balance of loving each other the way it’s described in 1 Corin 13.
    You mentioned that you ” think the dangerous part of the article is the underlying assumption that if wives do X for their husband, husbands will do Y for their wives in return. Marriage is not a you-do-this-for-me-and-I-do-this-for-you kind of a covenant.” This is not what the article says, rather an assumption as you said that you’ve made, however you’re right, marriage shouldn’t be about doing something for the other person to get a return.
    But in many marriages both in a christian context & non-christian each person has expectations that the other will love them the way they want to be loved, and when they don’t get what they expect, they unitentionally perhaps protect themselves from the hurt of that disappointment through control, anger, withdrawal and many other unhealthly behaviours that undermine the relationship, create a barrier, when good communication is really whats needed. I hope that both men and women who read the article use it to start a dialog about their roles in their homes and how they can serve each other in love better.

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