Christian women say the darndest things

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I remember from my college days a skit performed at a Campus Crusade for Christ conference. The girls in the skit did a parody of Bill Bright’s Four Spiritual Laws tract.

For those familiar with the tract that teaches about God’s wonderful plan for our lives, someone came up with the idea that the single Campus Crusade girls had a wonderful plan for the lives of the single guys: marriage. It was a well-done, thought-out skit aimed obviously at getting the single guys in the room to notice the single women and to, well, propose to them.

The girls didn’t plan on the guy in the skit asking them how their “plan” fit into the Apostle Paul’s admonition in 1 Corinthians 7:7. The laughter in the room, particularly from the guys, was loud.

Driving them off…

While the Bible clearly teaches that Christ will return for His church and likens the return to a wedding ceremony by referring to the church as His “bride,” it stymies me as to how some folks can compare this to Christ’s relationship with single women on an individual basis.

I’ve actually heard single women claim that Christ is their husband, as if that’s supposed to offer some sort of comfort to single women longing to be married.

As a single guy it’s a huge turn-off!

For starters ladies, announcing that you’re married (at least to the honest single guys out there) is like wearing a very large wedding ring. We get the picture! You’re off limits!

Implied in this premise is a bit more insidious and somewhat insulting.

Trying to attract “the good guys” out there, while dating the not-so-good guys isn’t the answer either. I’ve seen that first hand, and have heard people actually question women as to their choices. But I digress…

The honest Christian man will admit that he’s not perfect, and in fact is likely far from it. If he’s also honest with himself and others, he’ll admit that his pursuit of perfection (God calls this holiness) is very real, even though he hasn’t yet attained it. Single Christian women claiming Christ as their “husband,” spiritually speaking or otherwise,  imply that no human male is good enough for them to marry. And so, we move on.

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3 thoughts on “Christian women say the darndest things

  1. Sorry .. this single again woman has to put her two cents in. I’ll try not to make this long and drawn out, but a lot of time, we refer to God as our “Husband”, because HE’s the ONLY one that hasn’t rejected us. I even jokingly say that God’s selfish and HE wants to keep me for himself. It’s tough having a lot of love in your heart and no one is willing to let you share that love with them. So … we go back to our ‘first love” which is God!! Bear with us … I would rather hear a woman refer to God as her husband, than listen to bitter person, either male or female, that has nothing good to say about marriage and/or the other sex.

  2. “…someone came up with the idea that the single Campus Crusade girls had a wonderful plan for the lives of the single guys: marriage.”

    Men, women, and marriage. These three were created by God. Marriage is not an invention of either gender. Marriage was created by God Himself.

    If you want to complain about marriage, perhaps you should direct your complaints directly to the One who created it? I don’t understand marriage, either, but I have simply accepted that God’s ways are higher than my ways, and God’s thoughts are higher than my thoughts.

    http://www.gotquestions.org/marriage-Bible.html

    “I’ve actually heard single women claim that Christ is their husband, as if that’s supposed to offer some sort of comfort to single women longing to be married.”

    In Ephesians 5, the blueprint from Christian marriage, Paul the Apostle explains that the marriage relationship God created is meant to mirror the relationship between Christ and the Church.

    A husband commits to love his wife as Christ loved the church (putting her needs before his) and the wife commits to love her husband like the church loved Christ (with submission and respect).

    In the Biblical model, the church is Christ’s bride and Christ is the husband. In this Biblical analogy, BOTH men and women are the bride of Christ. The ENTIRE church (both male and female) is the bride of Christ. Christ is the husband to both Christian men and women.

    “Single Christian women claiming Christ as their “husband,” spiritually speaking or otherwise, imply that no human male is good enough for them to marry. And so, we move on.”

    Christian men can also claim that Christ is their husband but only God can fill the emptiness in someone’s heart and life. No human can accomplish this supernatural feat. That said, a good spouse is a gift from God. I pray that these women seeking husbands will find men who are wholeheartedly committed to God’s plan for marriage.

    • I was following you in agreement right up until you said that “Christ is the husband to both Christian men and women.”
      Church is a collective term, as I understand it. I think there’s so much to this that we don’t understand. But, what I do understand is that God did create marriage between a man and a woman. We can debate the reasons God did this, but the fact of the matter remains that God did it.
      I think in our sin nature and our desire to wallow in self-pity, we tend to blame God for the other person’s shortcomings.
      My simple point (or so I thought at the time I wrote this) was to highlight a turn-off that some Christian men have towards some Christian women, and that is simply the notion that some Christian women feel they need to declare their marriage to Christ because the right guy hasn’t come along and proposed marriage.
      None of us are perfect. Claiming Christ as your “husband” is, to be blunt, a little creepy.
      As for the Campus Crusade story, that was intended to highlight the creative humor of some people, and not to make a statement related to biblical truth.

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