Sometimes it’s strange how thoughts occur to me, then again, if you knew how my A.D.D. brain works you’d more fully know what I mean!
Listening to a radio program the other day — I get to do that a lot as a truck driver (see what I mean!) — that almost discussed dating, marriage and the sorts, this thought occurred to me: What is it about the ambivalent bad boy that cause single Christian women to not see the nice guy in next pew?
I’ve seen it in church before: “nice guy” can’t get the time of day from “pretty girl,” who, after weeks of ignoring “nice guy,” eventually shows up proudly at church with “bad boy” in tow.
While “bad boy” does have those rugged good looks that has even some of the married women in the church fawning over “pretty girl” and her newfound love interest (and face it, some of the guys in church are even jealous), it’s quietly obvious to just about everyone else around the room that this just isn’t going to work out well for “pretty girl.” If she doesn’t wise up soon and break it off, “pretty girl” will wind up mirroring the message in a number of Casting Crowns songs.
And so it happens. Several weeks to a couple months later “pretty girl” shows up in church alone, obvious to the attentive that she was finally dumped by bad boy because she either A) wouldn’t sleep with him, or B) because she did and now she’s pregnant and doesn’t know what to do about the secret that will soon become the source of gossip by the self-righteous.
The fact that this isn’t a new phenomenon must suggest that as smart as we think we are: we really haven’t learned. As amazingly simple as some of the advice columnists try to make it, the fact remains that we apparently can’t communicate these differences between the planets effectively enough.
Meanwhile, for all the cool things our smart phones can do, they really haven’t made us any more intelligent; all they’ve managed to do is feed an attention deficit that causes us to not fully engage in the conversation and companionship that we claim desperately to want.
- Dear Nice Guy or rather New Found Asshole – a girls response (girltherapy.wordpress.com)
- Walking Contradiction (girltherapy.wordpress.com)