Where do I begin?
That I was intrigued enough to click on a link recently for an article under the following headline: Men — Who Needs Them? doesn’t paint a complete picture as to why I was interested in such an article until you learn that it was published on a website of Focus on the Family.
Really? This is a question worthy of a ministry that espouses family values!
Could this selfish attitude and snarky question with all the premises inherent in the feminist movement be a reason why the divorce rate in the evangelical church in America mirrors that of the rest of the country or that people are waiting much longer to marry, and when they do the decision isn’t much different than which dog to adopt from the local pet shelter? Is this attitude as endemic in the church as it is elsewhere? But I’m getting ahead of myself.
For all the hue and cry over the glass ceiling phenomenon and the complaints that women just don’t get a fair shake in the business world, we read stuff like this that seems to suggest that the male of the species is only necessary for… well… that’s the question. Just what are we good for?
Take for instance what Connally Giliam writes as she records the comments of female friends (and herein is the premise of her article):
Still another wrote, “I do not need a man.” Her tenor wasn’t harsh, just direct. She continued, “I have built a life for myself that involves some close girlfriends and a large circle of acquaintances, and I have a job I love and think I’m pretty good at. It pretty much allows me a lifestyle that is comfortable and has quite a number of perks.” Another self-revealing friend responded, “I don’t need them to pay my rent, change my oil in my car, move furniture or mow the lawn (although all that would be nice). [But] I feel most like a woman when I’m with a man.”
So, men are nothing more than an accessory, like that matching purse and earrings to go with the dress she’ll wear once because it won’t fit the next time she finds occasion to wear it.
But she continues:
Citing the best-selling book The Rules, Barbara Dafoe Whitehead offers a picture of the new ideal single woman: “You are a very fulfilled person — stable, functional, and happy — with a career, friends, and hobbies … you are perfectly capable of living with or without him. You are not an empty vessel waiting for him to fill you up, support you, or give you life.” No, this is not a woman with evident needs.
So much for that little notion in the Bible where God, after declaring all of the phases of creation “good,” finds something quite the contrary.
In Genesis 2, God caps off His creation and his first command to Adam with this statement in verse 18 (emphasis added): “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper who is just right for him.”
A few verses later we read: “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”
Those of us familiar with the story know that it all goes south for Adam and his new wife shortly thereafter. We’re suffering the consequences of it all to this day.
So ladies, learn how to kill your own spiders and stop complaining about your biological clocks and all that alone-time you have on Valentines Day and other holidays. Remember this: Adam was doing just fine until Eve came along!
As for the rest of you who don’t seem to hold to these selfish beliefs, know this: a true man will walk barefoot through molten shards of glass for you and your children if you will simply adopt the opposite philosophy of your more enlightened sisters who think like the woman who believes she has the good life, the good job and the ever-present circle of acquaintances.
I’ll leave you with this question: what happens after the the doctor diagnoses cancer at 9 a.m, the boss fires just before lunch because you were late for work, and that circle of acquaintances abandons you after hearing the gossip about you over the water cooler where you once worked?