I just read a single mom’s blog. She writes about a number of things I find interesting.
While sharing some more personal issues about her life — it’s what first attracted me to this woman through her radio voice and her blog — she raised an issue that I’d like to see addressed by the local church.
In her blog she shares about watching her young son learn the art of baseball, including which direction to run after hitting the ball. While I’m sure the boy has a coach who can teach him the basic points of the game, he’s without a dad to reinforce what he’s learning on the field.
David Murrow, author of Why Men Still Hate Going To Church, has addressed the dearth of men in the local church — at least those young enough and with the energy to work with youth. But this isn’t a review of his book inasmuch as it’s an example of a recognized fact.
While that’s not to say there are no men at all active in the local church, here’s an example of a young mother with children (particularly a son) who could use some help with her son.
While I can only speculate as to her needs, what I see is this: there’s a young boy without a father figure in a home who needs a masculine role model — someone to look up to: figuratively and literally, who can throw a baseball with him, teach him how to hold a baseball bat and how to get in front of the ball when fielding a grounder. I’m sure he could also use someone to mentor him on what it’s all about to be a guy and to grow into a man.
While men with families might seem the “safe” alternative within the local church to incorporate these boys into their families, there are other men in the church — single men — who could be tapped and utilized for their abilities to coach and mentor young men as well.
In Acts Chapter 2 we read about the early church and how they formed a community of believers. While the Bible specifically addresses their devotion to the teaching of the apostles, it also mentions the phrase in the NLT (vs. 42) “and to the fellowship.” In other words, they gathered together to enjoy each other’s company. While it doesn’t spell out every detail of what they did together, I can imagine that there may have been some who gathered to enjoy the particular sport of the day.
So gentlemen, what are we doing to help the single moms in our community of believers when it comes to helping coach and mentor their children, particularly their sons? These boys are absent a father figure in the home and in desperate need of one, if for nothing else, to throw a baseball and a football with them and teach them how to field a ground ball. What a great opportunity and introduction then to teach them about God’s purpose for them as they grow into men.
Can you hear this woman’s cry for help in her blog? What about the single mothers in your own church? Can you hear their cries for help in teaching their sons what a man of God looks like?