That didn’t take long!
Not two weeks after returning to a town I spent a significant chunk of my life in I was asked the one question I’m sure many single adults have been asked by well-meaning friends. Keep in mind, while people here still know me, I’ve been gone for the large part of three years.
After inquiring about my age, which in itself was kind of awkward, I was asked by my married friend: “Are you dating anyone?”
I could immediately tell where this conversation was going. Wanting to be perfectly candid I played along and answered her questions about my interest in dating and possibly being introduced to someone.
Is it just me, or does this seem so much more awkward than putting yourself out there on eHarmony?
Maybe it’s because the one other time someone I knew played matchmaker on my behalf they didn’t bother asking, but simply invited me to have dinner with them. When I arrived it didn’t take long to tell that this was a set up. What made the situation even more difficult was the brief history between me and the woman I was being set up with.
Or, maybe it’s because I have absolutely NO CONTROL over who I’m being introduced to or how the introduction will take place. Will it simply be between services at church in a non-threatening sort of way like “I’d like you to meet…” or will it be at the request of my friends to meet them and this person over lunch or at their home for a barbecue?
In today’s world where we’re all running different directions and find it difficult to meet people we may be interested in, it’s certainly reasonable for established friends to help facilitate introductions on your behalf. After all, how else do we meet new people if not for a mutual friend to make an introduction, whether it’s in a business setting and strictly for those purposes, or for more social reasons?
Is there a better way?
Reading through some blogs this afternoon (Sunday afternoons are good for this!) I returned to one I like to read and sometimes respond to. A recent post carried a common theme to something my friend said after church services this morning when she offered to introduce me to a friend of hers. In short, she seemed to be lamenting the very same things discussed in this particular blog post.
What is it about today’s culture that makes meeting someone for the purpose of dating so complicated? How does a guy go about the process of seeking assistance and a non-threatening introduction in a dignified manner? I’m open to ideas and suggestions.
Given the plethora of dating websites, all which seek to part people from their hard-earned money through enticing marketing campaigns, it certainly makes economic sense to enlist the help of friends when trying to enter or re-enter the dating arena.
- eHarmony Hopes Job Seekers Will Fall for Algorithms (mediabistro.com)
- Forget online dating websites: New app lets you play matchmaker with single friends by setting them up via Facebook (dailymail.co.uk)
- Wednesday Night’s Human Matchmakers And Coaches Take Some Of The Work Out Of Online Dating (techcrunch.com)